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Tuesday's lesson on stress relief - How To Help A Child Overcome Separation Anxiety

Separation Anxiety is a form of high tension or stress that is caused by an imminent event or
previous experiences that require the victim to be in a situation where they have to be separated
from an object or person that they are particularly attached to. This is most frequently seen in
adolescents and children, who bond to toys and family members easier than adults. The
comfort of a familiar object or person creates an increased agitation at the notion that they will
have to give it up, which can result in the symptoms of the anxiety lasting anywhere up to four
weeks. Usually, however, the symptoms tend to pass in only a handful of weeks. It should be
noted, however, that there are indeed cases where the symptoms simply remain or may even
grow.
The usual symptoms that teens and children will feel are emotions of intense anxiety, an
increased difficulty in sleeping, tantrums, nightmares that involved the separated person or
object, and a kind of homesickness. Not all symptoms are merely mental, as there can be a
variety of psychosomatic reactions that include dizziness, headaches, stomach aches, and
vomiting.
It's usually during the disruption of a child's typical routine that the anxiety symptoms set in the
most frequently. For example, if a child is starting in a new school, whether for the first time or
following a transfer, they can find themselves feeling many of these anxiety symptoms.
Naturally, the feelings can also arise if the child is forced into a move to a new home, especially
if it's to a new locale like a city or country. severe changes in the child's life style can also
antagonize feelings of separation anxiety, such as a divorce as the person yearns for the
presence of whichever parent they are not currently living with.
Observation is the first recommended step in treatment. Parents are told to watch and
determine how long children need to adjust to the absence of their object and their new
surroundings. If there's no indication that the anxiety is going to subside, professional help is
highly recommended, especially if the condition appears to worsen.
Usually, a series of tests and questions will be posed to determine if the symptoms warrant
medical assistance. Evaluation is often prescribed when a child actively seeks to avoid
integrating in social activities with others in his environment regardless of the time spent there.
With the aid of the parents and other adults, children can have the affects of the anxiety
minimized over time. It is important to understand that among the driving feelings of Separation
Anxiety is a fear of being separated from something that the child has intimately bonded with
such as family and friends, therefore it is important to help the child overcome these worries and
fears.

Next chapter , next Tuesday.

This post is an except from "How To Win Your War Against Stress" (c) Wings of Success 

Moartea ca arta de a trai: Albert Einstein

A pronuntat cateva cuvinte in germana chiar inainte de a muri, dar infirmiera care era de garda la spitalul din Princeton nu cunostea aceasta limba si n-a putut sa le repete.

In memoriam- Stephane Audeguy

Un asiriolog, un rabin si un iezuit....

..desi pare a banc nu este. Totusi ce ar putea face impreuna cei trei ? Ar putea scrie o carte placuta, calma si linistitoare numita "Cea mai frumoasa istorie a lui Dumnezeu".

Jean Bottero-asiriologul si Marc-Alain Quaknin-rabinul cu Joseph Moingt- iezuitul beau si ei tutun si se gandesc la Dumnezeu. Primul vorbeste despre Dumnezeul Bibliei, al doilea despre Dumnezeul evreilor si ultimul despre Dumnezeul crestinilor. Despre acelasi. 

Nimic nu aduce in aceasta conversatie vuietul strazii, al fanaticilor, al prostiei si al habotnicismului. Caci toate acestea sunt atat de departe de adevaratul discurs introspectiv pe care fiecare din noi ar trebui sa il aiba.

So..go out and buy it !

Moartea ca arta de a trai: Chamford

O carte care merita citita si savurata, In memoriam a autorului Stephane Audeguy este o lectie de viata compusa din discursuri funebre, necrologuri si imagini puternice ale mortii. Citeva mi-au atras atentia si le voi posta si aici (soon).

Incep insa cu moralistul Chamford care reda ideile unui copil de 12 ani ( desigur nu il cred dar si moralistii au voie sa exagereze iar eu am dreptul sa nu ii cred. Seamana cu "fabulatiile/exagerarile" lui Borges ):
"De ce trebuie sa inveti sa mori? Doar vad ca lucrurile reusesc foarte bine din prima ! Dar daca viata este ansamblul fortelor care se impotrivesc mortii, moartea nu tine oare de regulile cele mai elementare ale vietii?" 

So...go out and buy it.

Beau tutun si ma gandesc la John Gray - recomandare citat facuta de Anca :)

"Visam mereu niste masini care sa ne elibereze de noi insine; dar lumile fantastice pe care ni le contruiesc aceste masini au fisuri si gauri care ne arunca inapoi in lumea muritorilor."
John Gray - Caini de paie. Ganduri despre oameni si alte animale.

Tuesday's lesson on stress relief - Post Traumatic Stress In Children

When you think of post traumatic stress, the first thing that usually comes to mind are soldiers
returning from war, bombarded by shell shock, reliving their memories of a dreadful experience
that leaves them with what some call "the stare". But what many people don't realize is that this
is only a small portion of those affected by post traumatic stress - in fact, children are often
times the hapless victims of the horror of post traumatic stress.
The symptoms and causes are very similar in many aspects to those felt by adults, however the
far less world wizened children are often times bombarded far more harshly than their grown
counterparts. The trauma is brought on much like the turning on of a simple switch when the
condition begins. The results can be violent, and are always nothing short of harrowing - and
these psychological traits are usually brought on by a myriad of tragically frequent factors.
The most common events to cause post traumatic stress in children are, likewise, not all that
different from adults. Children who suffer sexual abuse can almost immediately contract the
condition. In cases of violence, especially involving the death of a loved one, or serious
accidents or other natural incidents of trauma, children can have their lives permanently
changed. A child who witnesses a fatal vehicular accident can become immediately plagued by
post traumatic stress - a factor shared by many young survivors of cataclysmic occurrences of
nature such as hurricanes or earthquakes.
Usually, a younger victim of post traumatic stress will endure all the same symptoms as an
adult, however they must also endure an extra layer of hardships, usually brought on by their
underdeveloped or inexperienced minds trying desperately to cope with the situation they've
been put in. Flashbacks are a very common trait of the condition. They will frequently and
seemingly inexplicably find themselves vividly reliving the events that led up to the trauma to
begin with.
But in addition to the obvious flashbacks, a fear of the catalysts that actually trigger the
flashbacks also sets in. Again this is a shared symptom, as much like adults, children will find
themselves trying to avoid anything that reminds them too much of the event, such as a

television show depicting a car crash that could remind them of the accident that killed a family
member.
Unlike adults, who often try to avoid triggering their flashbacks by bottling up or withdrawing
entirely, children are eminently more dependant, and will usually cling to their caretaker or loved
one. Much like finding a safe haven in their family member or guardian, they feel safer away
from the images and emotions that rage in their post traumatic stress environment, finding a
kind of solace in their parent or guardian's arms.
If you want to help treat post traumatic stress, it is highly recommended that both adults and
children partake in therapy. Armed with a dual treatment of medication and therapy, the Mayo
Clinic boasts a remarkable track record of recovery for post traumatic stress patients.
However, the condition is also very serious, and should not be expected to go away on its own.
It can have long term, scarring, even potentially dangerous affects on a child or adult, and the
victim needs to be able to work out their flashbacks and be able to move on and enjoy their
lives. Combating post traumatic stress could be the desperate boost a child needs to get on with their lives, and overcome their grisly past.

Next chapter , next Tuesday.

This post is an except from "How To Win Your War Against Stress" (c) Wings of Success 

Coincidenta sau hazar ?

Lincoln a fost ales presedinte in 1860.
Dupa exact 100 de ani, in 1960, Kennedy devine presedinte.
Ambii preocupati de drepturile civile.
Ambii asasinati vinerea, in prezenta sotiei ( ?).
Ambii ucisi de un glont care le-a patruns in cap din spate.
Lincoln a fost asasinat la teatrul Ford.

Kennedy asasinat intr-un automobil Lincoln decapotabil fabricat de Ford.

Interesant? Mai mult intr-o delicioasa carte scrisa de Martin Plimmer & Brian King: Coincidenta sau hazard - mic tratat de mare destin :)

I will be back with more from this book .

Tuesday's lesson on stress relief - Effective Online Stress Relief Programs

With the availability of free information on the internet there is an often overlooked benefit in its
ability to act as a great form of stress relief. With a world overflowing with stress, there are
precious few people alive who can say that they don't experience it in their daily lives.
Fortunately, a variety of websites are available to aid you in relieving your stress.
Websites such as Stress Less offer ideas for relief that are innovative and out of the box. It
offers a wide array of recommendations that will help you enjoy living your life, and not simply
tolerating it through the malaise of stress.
To enhance their services, most of these websites, such as Stress Less, bolster their ranks with
professionals that are available to be contacted. For example, if you are interested in having a
one on one dialog with those whose jobs are reducing people's stress, then you have the option
of a fully confidential, private meeting at your convenience.
If a form of therapy isn't what you're interested in however, there are also websites that offer a
reduction in anxiety through various programs. The programs are stocked with modules that
allow you to learn what kind of behavioral techniques can help cut down on, or in some cases
even remove stress entirely. It should go without saying that such an affect on your life could
have an overall, positive change on your lifestyle in general.
But there are a variety of other techniques that these websites utilize to help you. Relaxation
programs are another common theme provided, which teach you how to regulate your
breathing, meditate, and even relax your muscles to help cut back on tension. For a small fee
you are able to download the instructions for these programs, which are supplemental to a
series of quizzes, inspirational emails, and tracking diaries that are on hand to provide you with
that much needed encouragement to continue and succeed.
Perhaps the most helpful thing that these websites offer is the encouragement to approach life
in such a positive way that dispels the most common cause of stress, which is a simple negative
outlook at life. Wrongful thinking can augment and amplify an already stressful environment.

To that end, stress relief websites endeavor to arm you with the motivation you need to develop
a positive outlook.
This can be supplemented by what is referred to as music therapy, which is a form of online
relief that the free form of the internet makes available. Many people like to turn on their favorite
tunes, or relaxing themes to help cut back on tension. But it's important to pick a song that you
know appeals to you: a fan of Bach or Mozart isn't going to find much comfort in an album by
Iron Maiden and vice versa.
Fortunately, you have the option of picking whatever technique or service benefits you the most
from a wide range of tools that the internet hosts. Although it may be difficult to know which
program is best for you, you have the option of trying as many as you like, and sticking with the
one that works.

Next chapter , next Tuesday.

This post is an except from "How To Win Your War Against Stress" (c) Wings of Success

Tuesday's lesson on stress relief - Tips On Managing Your Stress And Self-Esteem

Regardless of what some may think, everyone is plagued in some way by stress. Whether it be
over arrangements for a major event or simply one's inability to get that crucial check out when
it's needed, everyone suffers from stress. The trick, however, is finding and utilizing the stress
relief technique that works for you as an individual. Fortunately, with the plethora of relaxation
techniques that are guaranteed to relieve that agonizing stress, one is certainly bound to work
for your needs.
If you're the kind of person who has a particular fondness towards animals, then one of the
easiest ways to break that bubble of anxiety is to simply reap in the benefits of taking on a pet.
If you don't have one already, then getting the animal of your choice for a pet is certainly in
order. Although any pet comes with a great deal of work and care, these same responsibilities
also work in unison to grant the off-setting feelings of companionship that makes a pet one of
the greatest ways to relieve stress. Many studies have proven that in addition to elevating your
mood, pets help to lower depression, and actually even help with blood pressure. If you have a
particularly active animal, it also helps grant a justification to get off the couch and get a little
exercise. But ultimately the adoration and companionship that comes with your pet helps ward
off many of the prime causes of stress, including a feeling of abandonment, loneliness, and a
lack of interaction.
In many cases however, a simple lifestyle change may be all that is necessary to break the
bonds of stress. In many cases, some people set standards so high that they border on
perfectionism, and when they consistently fall short of their goals they feel this reflects poorly on
themselves, rather than realizing that their standards are simply unrealistically high. Therefore
this mindset has the dangerous potential of ruining anything you try to set your mind too, as any
kind activity you may normally enjoy is hindered by your perfectionist attitude. Therefore it is
very important to halt your practice of approaching everything you do overly critically. For
example, instead of focusing on the cynical or pessimistic, you could spend your time assessing
and appraising your positive points. This has the dual benefit of increasing your self-esteem
while lowering your stress.
Finally, you can always just kick back, relax, and just abandon the stressful world of work
altogether. Go on a nice, enjoyable vacation, abandoning your cell phone, your laptop, and any
other vestiges of your responsibilities. You should use this chance to just unwind, have fun, and
get a good measure of where you want to go with your life in a form of reconnection. If you're in
a relationship, this special time when you won't be occupied by work gives you a chance to work
on rekindling your relationship - which is a major cause of some people's stress. Even if you
can't afford a full scale vacation, sometimes a simple day off, turning off all the electronics in the
house, sealing off your room, and asking that you be left alone to sleep and relax could be all
that's necessary to break your bout of stress.

Next chapter , next Tuesday.

This post is an except from "How To Win Your War Against Stress" (c) Wings of Success 

Tren Otopeni

Astazi m-am vazut in postura de a ajunge la Otopeni la o ora critica in Bucuresti ( da, stiu, mai toate orele in Bucuresti dpdv circulatie sunt critice) : 18. Ora la care birourile se golesc si haosul acapareaza Bucurestiul. Pentru prima data insa am ales sa testez linia de cale ferata Gara de Nord/Otopeni. Deci 20 minute Cotroceni-Gara de Nord si un estimate de 30 min pina la Otopeni. 30 de minute in care cu masina nu garantez ca ajungeam pina in Piata Victoriei.

Surprize peste surprize: trenul spre Otopeni este gol, este de tip “sageata albastra”, este curat si este Eficient. Cu doar 3 persoane in tot trenul ajungem fara nici o secunda intarziere la o statie amenajata ( cam rustic) de unde suntem preluati de un microbus care ne livreaza rapid aeroportului. Totul  OK (si contra unei sume modice de 6 lei) !

Intrebarea care ma framinta este : de ce doar 4 persoane din sutele care se indreptau spre Otopeni au ales acest tren ? Parcarea din fata aeroportului este ticsita de masini care au facut 45min – 1 ora pina aici. Raspunsul nu cred ca se gaseste in zona de comunicare a produsului sau de promovarea a serviciului. Cred ca in acest caz este vorba doar de o infatuare a romanului neoas care fie alege sa isi deranjeze colegii, familia sau prietenii pentru a-I duce la aeroport ( insotitorii saracii mai au de infruntat si drumul de intoarce in Bucuresti, niciodata liber) pentru a da o solemnitate momentului zborului. It’s stupid !

Concluzia mea este simpla: haideti sa aderam la o normalitate pe care o invocam atat de des si sa alegem calea usoara, practica si facila. Nimanui nu ii vor cadea tresele sau aerele daca va folosi trenul spre Otopeni.  Este mai rapid, mai economic, mai putin poluant, nu aglomereaza strazile capitalei  si este un semn de normalitate. Este logic.